Why are divorces becoming so common? The U.S. Census Bureau states that half of all marriages end up in failure (Medved 737). Most divorces end because of financial issues, insecurity, or even sometimes abuse, but there are obviously many other reasons. With this is mind one may think, what really are the true effects of a divorce? During marriages, many assets are usually acquired, such as children, cars, and houses. During the divorce process this could potentially turn into an issue for both sides of the parties. How this is handled can be the deciding factor in whether the divorce has a positive or negative effect on each party.
Most people think that marriage is for life. Sadly, many come to realize that the marriage they're in is not the one that they thought it would be. Divorces happen for many reasons and it is indefinitely debatable whether a divorce is positive or negative. Thus, many may say that one growing up in a household with two intact parents is more likely to be successful in their future. Sometimes, though a couple just doesn't get along in a household and it can cause stress not only on them but to others in the family. As Berlin states in his testimony that, “marriage can help children only if the marriage is a healthy one”. When he states a healthy one, he means in the matter that they are not fighting or no abuse is occurring. An unhealthy marriage can cause many issues for a child's well-being and future development. Berlin also mentions that “marital hostility is associated with increased aggression and disruptive behaviors”. Coming from this a divorce may be necessary in many cases, but the debate is still: what are its true effects?
One huge statistic that stood out was that 35 to 40 percent of single-mother families are more likely to be poor compared to less than 10 percent of married couples with children (Berlin). The argument here is that research seems to show that a child with intact parents is more than likely going to do better, on average, than children who stay in a single-parent household (Berlin). This does not necessarily go for all sorts of scenarios though, many children who live with single parents have great opportunities and go off to do great things. In a 1965 report written by Daniel Patrick Moynihan, “The Negro Family: The Case for National Action”, he described the controversy over marriage and social policy.
Many people tend to get caught in something called an addictive marriage. In this case one is almost trapped in a marriage that they don't know what to do with. “Addicts become so elaborately enmeshed in the other person that the sense of self- personal identity is severely restricted, crowded out by that other person’s identity and problems” (Roy). People feel lost and they are stuck because of many reasons. Most of the time one stays in the marriage to better the children, try to better their relationship, or because they're scared to leave. In most cases they stay together for...