Whether it is getting a bad grade in English class, leaving home to go
to college, or losing a loved one, we all experience sorrow. Sorrow a pain or distress of the mind caused by a loss or misfortune. It is a
part of life that we all must learn to deal with. People cope with sorrow in
different ways. Certain people let every misfortune that they encounter get to
them. They flip out if they get a C on one of the many minute assignments in a
class. If they get a traffic ticket, they think the world is coming to the end.
People who deal with sorrow like this are not being reasonable. Do these people
believe these minor flaws in their day-to-day living are going to have a life
long affect on them? They do not have to be sad, but they choose to be.
One day I got my second traffic ticket in my first year of driving. As
soon as I looked into my rear view mirror and saw the officer turn on his
flashing lights, my heart sank into my stomach. The officer asked if I knew why
I was being stopped. I was speeding and I knew it. The officer went back to
the car and began to write the ticket, while I was sitting in my car thinking.
At first I thought about how much trouble I was going to be in and how much
money it was going to cost me. I was very depressed. Then I got to thinking.
What's the big deal? It's just a little traffic ticket. Sure, I may get in
trouble, but who cares? It's just a small detail in my life. I can whine and
complain, or I can focus on the more important things in life. Why waste away
the days feeling gloomy and depressed? What good is it serving me to feel this
Sorrow is like a rock being thrown at you. You can choose to watch it
approach you until it hits you right between the eyes, or you can out of the way
and let it pass you by. Of course different levels of sorrow exist and some are
harder to deal with than others, but most day to day misfortunes don't have to
be the cause of sadness and depression.
Sorrow is divided into four groups; sorrow, grief, anguish, and woe.
Different people can tolerate different levels of sorrow.
The first group, regular sorrow, is the least extreme. This is the
feeling you get during the last days of summer when you know school is just
around the corner. You may experience sorrow when you get an awful grade on a
test. Many people deal with it quite well, but some do not. Some people still
let these small things get to them. And if they don't let the sorrow go, then