The Road Less Traveled; A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
The Road Less Traveled, written by M. Scott Peck M.D. was the book I chose from the list the class was given. The book discusses how people react to different situations we encounter throughout our lives, from childhood lessons and how we are raised to our reactions to situations we deal with as adults. The book is broken down into four main parts; discipline, love, growth and religion and grace. And within each of those sections Peck breaks those down further. M. Scott Peck is a best selling author and psychiatrist, he was educated at Harvard and Case Western Reserve. Dr. Peck lives in northwestern Connecticut where he has a private practice. The Road Less Traveled is an amazing self-awareness book that helps people face life’s difficult problems, making it easy for people to relate to some of the issues talked about in the book.
The first Topic that he wrote about is Discipline. When he breaks it down in different sections like; pain, responsibility, character disorders healthy depression and delaying gratification, he sums this chapter up when he states ‘Life is Difficult.”(15) Discipline is what we need to solve any of life’s problems. Peck talks about how we avoid pain and any emotional suffering is one of the leading causes of mental illness. People go to great lengths to avoid emotional suffering causing them to become stagnant in spiritual growth. When he writes about Delaying gratification, he uses a patient’s cake eating habits to make his point. We learn at a young age to complete tasks then reward ourselves. When we do the most enjoyable parts first we tend to procrastinate the rest or not even complete it. Responsibility is another section he tells us that to solve our problems we need to take responsibility in solving them.
The second topic is Love, Peck discusses the risks of being in love. The loss of independence, commitment and loosing oneself in a relationship. M. Scott Peck tells us that Romantic love is a myth. “The myth of Romantic love is a dreadful lie.”(92) He talks about how some people view Dependency as love, that is a sick behavior and leads to mental illness. Self-Sacrifice is another part of the love section. Pecks calls these types of people the “givers” (111) these people claim to always be the ones giving the ones they love everything. They self-sacrifice themselves so others can have. Peck also says Love is not a feelings but it is an object.
We take something that is important to us and place the name love on it.
World Views of Religion is the third topic. Dr. Peck talks about three cases from his patients that involved religion and their childhoods. The world views Religion in many different ways or disproves others points of view as not being a religion. He says that some say that if they don’t view religion as others do they are lacking in faith. Religion of Science is when we go against the religion our parents...